Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Seriously?

I don't know that I have too many friends whose first description of me would be she's the serious type -- Yet, truth be told, I am -- I take life to heart, I see people's lives through a lens of possibility, I seize moments that matter and I'm constantly writing about it in my mind so I can share all of it with readers like you -- With this, I'm naturally a free spirit who loves spontaneity, emotion, heart felt stories and kicking back on a crisp fall day with a cup-o-joe -- I like positive perspectives and when things don't turn out as positively, my heart breaks --

I sat in a trance, staring at the children sitting at my tutoring table -- They were doing their work so diligently and concentrating with every cell in their body -- As I gave instruction on how to read a word or figure a math problem, I watched them soaking up the information like a sponge to water -- At one point, I saw Alayna (name changed) writing, erasing, re-writing and repeating this sequence several times over it hit me that she was struggling to learn a skill that was second hand to me -- She was so serious --

It brought thoughts to my mind of middle/high school girls struggling to fit in or be the most popular -- They go to extreme lengths to feel beautiful, accepted, loved -- They use internet sites (not in my day, we still used typewriters) to create cliques and slander other girls so they can feel like they're at the top of the food chain, per se -- They don't eat for weeks so they can look glamorous in a prom dress or have the attention of whom they believe to be their fateful prince -- They give their bodies away in hopes to finally feel that complete fulfillment -- They are so serious --

I then see the college age students, giving up everything because they've got to get the A -- To be at the head of their class -- They give up dinners, parties, movie night, relationships and sleeping all to graduate valedictorian (I can barely spell it!) -- They move into the high rolling career and they loose themselves in it, it becomes who they are, what they breath, eat and sleep... it consumes their very being -- It's all so serious --

Then I see myself -- newly married -- While I didn't give up my family and friends, they most certainly lost me for a while -- I chose Dan over a lot of activities, girls nights out or study groups (when in school) -- I went from putting my all into our relationship to making it my all -- It took me about six months to realize I could come out of my newlywed self and interact with the world and I wouldn't loose my marriage -- I know this may sound kind of funny... but when you're first married, things seem fragile -- Every lesson learned seems ginormous and every word spoken seems like it's worth its weight in gold -- Then you learn that he/she is not going anywhere and you can relax... We were so serious -- (at least I was)

Now, when I enter my office and sit with women whose lives have been tortured not only recently, but since the time they breathed their first breath of air, my heart immediately attaches to their pain, emotions run high and all my natural and learned gifts come flying to the surface -- I am serious -- When I read blogs like My Charming Kids and Bring the Rain my perspective changes about what battles are worth fighting, what lessons are worth my energy and what life's truest purposes are -- their lives are serious --

I know that when your spouse is getting on your nerves or it seems like your job is at risk or your mortgage payment is overwhelming your finances life can be so serious -- Yet, what matters most, whether you can see it or not, is having your family alive and healthy, having friends who will pick you up and stand with you through life's truest crises, having a spouse who loves every part of your being and believing in a God who doesn't change although everything around us is evolving at light speed --

What I'm saying in all this is this.... What seems so serious to us today, will be a mere lesson learned tomorrow -- So here's to enjoying the sunsets, hearing children laughing, hugs from your spouse/friends/family, quiet moments with your faith and the beauty of creation -- Think twice about taking what you're facing so seriously... this too shall pass, but the truly serious issues of life will be with you for eternity --

16 comments:

Mrs. Forever said...

well written

Mojito Maven said...

GREAT post!!

LyndsAU said...

I think you should write a book :) Great post and so so true and good to read :)

Miss Caught Up said...

"Why so serious?"

Just kidding. You know, or at least from my caught up blog, or you can sense that I never take life seriously. Despite my lack of seriousness, I fully enjoyed this post.

I also agree with lyndsau that you should write a book and include all you've written here in the book. Kind of like a "positive living" book :)

Weeksie50 said...

This is a great post.
Thanks for sharing.

I am the opposite. I never take anything all that seriously and I can usually laugh at things and others look at me and think that I am insensitive but it is truly not the case. I just tend to look at things differently...

I teach preschool. 4 year olds. Our school is Pre-K - 12th grade. Starting in 2011 Pre-K will be mandatory in all Oklahoma schools. Our school has just gotten a jump start. I have been teaching for 5 years.

Sass said...

Beautiful, and oh-so-true.

My grandmother always told me "this too shall pass..."

Words to live by. Thank you for reminding me of them today. :-)

Cocaine Princess said...

My dear you said I was vulnerable, as are you. This was a delight to read. You really released a range of emotions that I could feel when I read this. Inspirational and amazing like you.

XOXO,
CP

NewlywedCentral said...

Ladies... thank you for your incredibly sweet words! I WILL write a book and you all will be the first to know -- Many thanks to each of you for reading my blog --

There'd be no reason to write without each of you :)

Angela said...

I've been reading your blog for a while, but I've never commented before. This post was awesome! Exactly what I needed to hear today, too!

Weeksie50 said...

I left you some bloggy love. Come on over and check it out..

Nifty Adventures into Denmark said...

Just found your blog. This post is perfect and something I should read every once in awhile to remind myself.

Cocaine Princess said...

Have you read my new post?

Bambi said...

Thank you for this- I've read your blogs for a while myself and not posted but somehow this was exactly what I needed in my life to realize i shouldn't be so serious right now either. 48 hours ago i was just like you, and reading your blog has opened my eyes. thank you- Well written!~

Twenty-Something said...

If ever there are words worth writing those are it! So So So important and completely right on!

Leila said...

So true and well written. From one deep soul to another...

Sweets said...

that was beautiful and so very very true, really great post! :)