As I wrote the title, I heard the theme song of Donald Trump's Apprentice run through my mind and then run out quickly... much like money does in my hands -- They say there is always a saver and a spender in the relationship and guess who's who :-I -- As I've said before, how can you touch people's lives if you're not touching your own -- So, get ready to see some yuck --
I'm the one in the relationship with every Gap / Ann Taylor / AT Loft / Banana Republic / Ralph Lauren (clearly I'm a prep) and Lucky Jeans, socks, hats, bandannas, shirts, skirts, ear muffs and any other bodily accessory available to the human race -- and several thousand dollars in Credit Card debt to prove it -- Some of you are shaking your head saying God, me too, she's so brave to just come out and say that and some of you are shaking your head saying OMG, I can't believe that, she's so irresponsible -- I agree with you both --
You see, I think I had a mid-life crisis at age 24 -- Seriously? Someone (won't mention any names) who I looked to for life lessons once said to me "Live it up! Everyone dies with debt." -- Why? Why, God!?! Why did I listen?!
With Mr. R paying for everything from our shampoo to the electric bill (and a brand new house), I was acting like a spoiled child who thought she had it so bad with all the debt I had -- I didn't have it bad, I had it good... in fact, I had it great and was taking advantage of the fact that I had an amazing husband who was taking care of it all -- Of course, I didn't see any of this until I talked to my dad
Why am I telling you all this? This stuff is personal and embarrassing -- I'm telling you because the #1 reason for divorce is finances -- I'm telling you this because as good as it can all look on the outside, there is always something that a couple is facing that's hard... damn hard -- Thankfully, I have a husband who wasn't willing to continue watching me throw myself down the black whole and more than that, wasn't afraid of really addressing the issue with some tough love
-- I cut up the credit cards --
It's been a couple weeks and I can vividly see how Mr. R and I are closer -- I feel the freedom from lying to myself and to those around me -- Clearly the hard part lies ahead with getting a job and paying them off -- It's just that I'm not willing to throw my marriage down the toilet because of a bad habit... a perceived safety net -- I opened my heart and mind to where my husband was coming from and I let go -- You can do this, too... no matter how hard -- Your marriage will love you for it and give to you what money never can --