Thursday, January 1, 2009

Party Like It's 1999


I remember New Year's Eve 1989 (ouch, that hurt) -- I had just turned 12 years old, moved to our new town of 500 people and thought it was coolest thing ever that I was witnessing the entry of a new decade -- The very fact that in another 10 years we'd be adorning a new Century clearly wasn't phasing me... it was going to be The 90's and life was good --

19 years later, I find myself laughing at the thought of me sitting in our panel covered wall living room trying to burn into my mind exactly what I was wearing so that I could forever remember that moment forever... Clearly it worked -- (a stretchy jumpsuit with black bottoms and a black and white striped top with pseudo suspenders topped off with colorful buttons for those of you who were wondering... I now understand I was not a fashion guru :)

Many New Years have come and gone and with each, new memories, heart aches, challenges, victories and of course, resolutions... There were even a few years where I don't even remember New Years and resolutions were clearly a fleeting thought -- At 31, I find myself looking at the coming New Years differently -- My resolutions more grounded, my goals not so lofty and my dreams less selfish -- I've been told (by whom I'm not sure, but it stuck and I like the theory) that in your 30's you start to not care about what people think anymore and you begin charging through life one goal at a time... I'm definitely finding that to be true --

12 months ago, I found myself in a deep depression -- If you know me, you'd know that this state of mind is all wrong for me -- I'm optimistic, resilient, passionate and ready for any challenge... but not the one of being a Newlywed -- Not that I wasn't ready for Newlywedhood, I just didn't realize I'd signed my death wish to freedom know what the challenge would look like seeing as Hollywood, magazines, hallmark commercials and anyone else who likes to paint fantasies for innocent brides, made 'Happily Ever After' seem like a breeze and that love conquers all... boy was I flipped off my fantasy rocker --

Hence... a blog -- I love to write and as an extrovert, I needed an outlet -- As I started to organize my craziness through posts, I found that everyday married life was quite funny -- No need for depression... but gratitude that I'd married the right guy -- It wasn't that I didn't have freedom, it's that I was now challenged to believe I was totally loved and that this was freedom in and of itself --

As I have written since April, I've learned so much about myself and Dan our relationship is absolutely incredible -- Not boring perfect, but open, honest, fun, comfortable and trusting -- I no longer feel the instability and insecurities of all the what ifs and we're at a point where our love is able to grow deeper and stronger... The second stage of marital love --

So... New Years Resolution? I only have one because it seems I get too overwhelmed by any more than that... What is it?


To only set goals on a daily or weekly basis


Yep. That's it. Nothing special, nothing extravagant, nothing to go running to all your bloggy friends about and shout You must read Anna's New Year's Resolution -- Sweet and simple and to the point -- Why? As a counselor, I set goals with people everyday and something I've learned is they only ever meet the goals in which are attainable within that week -- The best part about this is within a month, they look back and have accomplished a lot --


The benefits to this resolution are:
  • You are constantly accomplishing something so you are continuously gaining the reward of your accomplishments

  • There's not a lot of time to get discouraged about not getting to your goal

  • Your goals won't seem so overwhelming (i.e. Loose 20 lbs. -- instead it will be This week I will loose 1 lb.)

  • At the end of every month, you get to look back and reap the reward of having accomplished so much

OK... so, that was just a little psycho ed for each of my sweet bloggy friends --

So... whether you enjoy bringing in the New Year partying like it's 1999 or watching a good movie and drinking wine, my hope for each of you is to bring in the New Year just how your heart desires... I know I am :)

18 comments:

sarah said...

That's the best resolution I've ever heard (well, read). I never made resolutions, howver I did for the new year.

The Pink Chick said...

Happy New Year! I hope you have an amazing 2009!

Lianna Knight said...

Great idea! I think a lot of us would actually reach our goals if we played them one day at a time :) Happy new year!

Sweetbabs said...

I know what you mean about the fantasy marriage. I too thought it was going to be champagne and caviar all the time. It has been much more work but in a good way. I love the idea about setting small goals. I am totally stealing this from you.

Chloie said...

Happy New Year! I wish you all the best this year...

shalay said...

I actually think that's a good resolution because it's realistic. I HATE when people say their resolution is to start living completely differently. Come on. Great post, by the way!

Brown Eyed Girl said...

Great post and resolution!! Love it :) It makes perfect sense. So simple and realistic! Happy 2009

Hollie said...

great resolution! love that idea.

happy new year!!

C. Bowie Photography said...

Happy New Year to you!

Izzy said...

Happy New Year!! ;-D

Being Brazen said...

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Hope your 2009 is amazing and blessed ;)

Miss Anne said...

happiest new year sweet pea!

I know 2009 is going to be a year of fabulousness for all of us!

xo

Ms. Salti said...

I'm with you 100% on making one completely attainable selfless resolution. Good luck and may 2009 be better than any previous year!

Mrs. S said...

what a GREAT post! I really enjoyed that!!

Cocaine Princess said...

Your resolutions are fantastic. Happy New Year!

XOXO,
CP

Mrs. Jetplane said...

hey there. i wanted to answer your question, we're moving to Goldsboro (or near there). Mr. is going to be stationed at Seymour Johnson AFB in the Spring or potentially summer depending on his recent knee issue. Thanks for starting to read my blog.

Miss Caught Up said...

I wanted to party like it was 10 years ago, but I couldn't find my Prince outfit... :'(

LyndsAU said...

Great post my friend!! :) I love reading your posts :) I am just so behind so I am playing catch up! Happy New year dear!