NOT ME MONDAY!

Inspired by MckMama and her MSC*

It is absolutely not already 12:12 p.m. and I have not not done absolutely nothing but feed our farm animals, get dressed drink coffee and go over some designs for our living room with our interior decorator... Nope! Not me!

I did not spend all weekend doing 6 loads of laundry (in those new big washers) because I absolutely have not gone 3 weeks without doing laundry and my husband was absolutely not out of jeans and underwear (and maybe a few other things :)... Nope! Not me!

I did not fear being prego last week and buy 3 pregnancy tests because I do not have 6 friends who are having babies right now and was not fearing that I drank their water...(ugh) Nope! Not me! (and I am definitely NOT pregnant... like, for real)

I definitely do not need to get my arse up and clean out my car because it absolutely has not not been cleaned since, oh say... July and my husband is certainly not disgusted with it and he did not say he thinks there might be something dead in there... (did I just admit that on my blog?) -- Nope! Not me!

I did not win the Scribbler Award from Me! and I was not totally excited because I have not been noticing every other blogger getting this specfic award and I was not absolutely, secretly hoping someone would give it to me -- Nope! Not me! THANK YOU, ME!


I have not been totally overwhelmed with work because I'm working 3 jobs, and home, because we are always under construction and socially, because I still feel alone in this town... I absolutely am not being a victim and would never be looking for a little sympathy :) Nope! Not me!

I'm also, not late on reporting that I did not have the time of my life dressing up as a 70's chic for the children in our shelter -- and I did not cry as I heard one of them say Is all this candy for me? And I did not want to give them the rest of the candy I had -- Nope! Not me!

(compliments to my mom for making the outfit!)

I would NEVER be totally and thouroughly enjoying the fall and I did not completely enjoy photographing the fall leaves and our chickens whilst we landscaped our yard (OK, whilst Dan landscaped our yard) -- And I did not bake a pumpkin pie just for Dan because he loves them and I am not totally in love with my husband... just because -- Nope! Not me!

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*Many Small Children

I Want It All and I Want It Now...

Wouldn't it be nice if all your family drama could be settled in a mere 30 minutes? I guess you could say you know you grew up in the 80's if you watched: The Wonder Years, Who's the Boss, Alf, Full House, The Cosby Show, Cheers, Growing Pains, Different Strokes, The Facts of Life (my personal favorite) and Family Ties -- Wasn't it just so great that they were always able to solve life's biggest issues in the 30 minutes your eyes were glued to the TV? Oh, yeah... minus 15 minutes of commercials -- So really, these people became our heroes! (no... not really :)

Trouble is, real life issues can sometimes take years to work through, never mind the time it takes to cook dinner -- Life doesn't include a script, bright lights and takes 1,2 and 3 -- And you can try and act like you're the director, but unfortunately each day is totally unpredictable and no matter what, Life Goes On (wasn't that a show, too?) -- I believe we understand the reality of this because all our lives we face stuff that can't be resolved in 4.5 seconds, we've worked long and hard to earn the material things we have and we know it takes diligence to keep our relationships from growing mold -- But what about our marriages?

I know that when I watch a show, I get an image in my mind of the actors... I fall in love with that image and I like them for that image -- But when I see them on a talk show or in a magazine, I'm totally disappointed by how they really dress, do their hair or the lack of confidence all over them -- I think sometimes this is what happens when we picture marriage -- There's this idea of what it's going to be like and how we're going to act and what house we're going to live in and... how and when and where and what it's all going to pan out to be -- Then we get married and the reality isn't at all what the sitcom looked like on TV -- It's as though we think because we fell in love with someone all the issues that arise will be nothing more than bump on a pickle and we'll just scoot around them -- Are you finding out that it's not so? Yeah... me too --

No, I'm not naive (maybe just a little slow) -- I really thought Dan and I had fantastic communication in regards to what household responsibilities each of us would have, how the budget would look, vacations we'd take, dates we'd go on, how we'd communicate when we're upset and all the other fun things you put together in a perfect little box before you get married -- Then you're all married n' stuff and none of it goes as planned... I mean, aren't we supposed to just have a look and know what each other is saying? Aren't we supposed to have a ton of inside jokes and finish each others sentences? Isn't Dan supposed to know what I like to eat and know where I shop and understand why I do certain things and not others? Aren't I supposed to know what sort of presents Dan likes and what his love languages are? What about that white picket fence and 2.5 kids? Yes, yes, yes, yes and YES... but not after being married for like 3 seconds! -- Give yourself a break!

Apparently, if you get a Chase Credit Card, you can want it all and have it all now -- Or there's the Access Credit Card and you can take the want out of waiting -- But notice how all these scams are have now and pay later? If within your first few years of marriage you really work hard to build that strong foundation, you'll eventually have what you want and the reward of having it will be that much sweeter -- We are a now generation and I'm finding a theme among Newlyweds that it's taking a lot longer than they thought to build a connectedness they desire with their spouse -- They want the ease and comfortableness now -- They want to have the house now -- They want to understand their spouse now -- They want to know how to be a great wife/husband now -- They want to have that big career now -- They want children now -- They want, they want, they want... What about being content now?

Stop wanting and wanting and wanting (and wanting now!) -- Enjoy where you're at... love and laugh at the adventure you get to face with the man/woman you fell in love with... it's called making memories -- Do you really want to go the rest of your marriage just waiting for the next house, baby or raise? If so... you'll never enjoy today... or tomorrow... or ever -- Want what you have and want it now :)