Thursday, October 23, 2008

I'm not, I'm Dan...

For those of you who've asked...

I was 26 years old, heading to 27 like I was afraid I wouldn’t get there and just beginning to live my life – Having just left a 10 year abusive relationship (not with a man) which I like to refer to as "The Great Break", I was depressed, angry, in deep pain and utterly confused – I had more people telling me what they thought I should do than I have pairs of underwear and so the possibility of hearing my own voice was as likely as a fish understanding English – After six months of this tumultuous lifestyle, I knew the only way to truly find myself was to get away from everything/one that had defined who I was up until that point –


I found myself at my dad’s house for the next 6 months – My parents live in a town of about 500 people, so I knew I was safe from anyone and everyone’s influences (not that anyone knew I was there) – It was the best move I could have made, although the loss of closeness of so many friends was a bit torturous (love you, PA friends!) – I was able to take a deep breath; breathing in peace, acceptance, empathy and again… no opinions – My parents were a saving grace – Then, one year and 5 days from The Great Break, I found myself back in school pursuing my Master’s in Counseling, knowing full well I was there to get the counseling I needed for myself – It worked –


There I was in a new city, not knowing a soul, in my own apartment and living life completely on my own for the first time in my entire life – I stayed to myself for a year… I didn’t want anyone to know me and I didn’t want to know them – I didn’t want people to know my life story, where I’d been, what I’d accomplished or even why I was there at school – I just wanted to be…


It was another year later (for those of you who’ve lost track, it was now two years since the break up) and the few women I had let into my life, pulled me by my bra straps to a “Harbor Fest” for some good fun (did I just say good fun?) – As irony would have it, a few hours into our good fun and just as it was getting dark, I was separated from the girls – As I walked through a claustrophobic crowd of people, I was trying to hear my friend on the cell phone (over music being preformed by Collective Soul) who was telling me We’re over by the tree and as I look around, I see 26 trees (funny, Cynthia) – Next thing I know, I trip over someone’s foot –


I turn to see he is tall, incredibly handsome, blond, and had gorgeous blue eyes – I instinctively say in my most flirtatious voice I’m sorry! He reaches out his hand… I’m not, I’m Dan…


18 comments:

Angela said...

That is such a sweet story!

~Mrs. Guru~ said...

I am so gad you found such a great guy! You guys are super cute together.

Miss Caught Up said...

Hehehehe. I love that! "I'm sorry." and then, "I'm not, I'm Dan."

Awesome :)

Mickel said...

Great story :)

Mick
www.collectivesouldiers.com

Twenty-Something said...

freakin' cutest thing ever!

yeahexceptfornot said...

what a wonderful story!

Cocaine Princess said...

You are such a true inspiration for women everywhere. How brave you are to pick yourself up and make something so wonderful out of your life. I am a strong believer of divine timing and things happening for a reason. Your Dan is definitely a gift.
Sweet and lucky girl you are!

XOXO,
CP

Naturally Caffeinated Family said...

Thank you so much for sharing! Such a sweet, prince like story! "I'm not, I'm Dan", ahhhh! That picture is sooo cute!!

NewlywedCentral said...

Thank you, ladies! As you have (or haven't read)... while our meeting is very "fairytale" -- Marriage isn't -- We worked hard our first year... and couldn't be more happy --

CP -- Thank you -- My hope is that people are inspired -- I wouldn't share the intimacies of my heart if I didn't think it would help -- I'm also a believer in divine timing and I love that we've "met" too :)

Me! said...

Awwwwwww!!!! Talk about the stars being aligned :-). Thanks so much for sharing!!

Amy said...

Isn't it amazing how the right person seems to always find you when you aren't looking for it?

Sass said...

I love it when you're not looking, and alas, you find.

I was dragged to a party at the "dork fraternity." That's where I met my husband.

I tried to pout, but he wouldn't allow it. He rode his bicycle down the hall to meet me.

Anyway...thank you for sharing so openly. You always make me smile. ;)

Hollie said...

What a great story! so sweet!

thanks for sharing! I love hearing the details!

Courtney said...

Wow! What a wonderful story! Glad to meet you through MckMama (I'm the blonde who left the comment that had you in stitches). Have a great Friday!

Oh...dear me said...

Love the story!

Nicole Feliciano said...

Love the love story. Glad I found your blog. To spread some Valentine's Day love, I've got 5 contests running over at momtrends. Here's a link to one:

http://momtrends.blogspot.com/2009/02/babylegs-valentines-giveaway.html

Nicole Feliciano said...

I loved the post so much I just linked up to it here:

http://momtrends.blogspot.com/2009/02/happy-valentines-day.html

Megan said...

What a great story! heehee "I'm not. I'm Dan." heehee